In a world marked by diverse cultures, marriage often reflects the unique traditions, practices, and values of the society in which it exists. However, for Christians, navigating the intersection of God’s divine principles and cultural expectations can be a complex endeavour. Should couples adapt fully to cultural norms, or should they stand firm on God’s design when the two conflict? How can they honour their heritage without compromising their faith?
In Part Four of this series, we’ll explore the balance between God’s principles and cultural influences in marriage. This discussion will provide practical insights for honouring both faith and culture while ensuring God remains at the centre of the marital relationship.
God’s Sovereignty Over Culture
Culture, while valuable, is human-made and ever-changing. In contrast, God’s Word is eternal, offering timeless guidance that transcends cultural boundaries.
1. God is Above All Cultures
- God’s principles are universal, applicable across all cultures and societies. While culture is a product of human history and geography, God’s design for marriage remains unchanging.
- Isaiah 40:8: “The grass withers, the flower fades, but the word of our God will stand forever.”
2. Culture as a Reflection of Human Creativity
- Culture is part of God’s gift of creativity to humanity. It enriches our lives and provides identity, but it must be evaluated in light of God’s truth.
- Acts 17:26-27: “From one man He made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and He marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands. God did this so that they would seek Him and perhaps reach out for Him and find Him.”
3. Cultural Norms vs. Biblical Principles
- When cultural norms conflict with Biblical teachings, Christians are called to prioritise God’s Word.
- Matthew 6:33: “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
The Role of Culture in Shaping Marital Practices
Culture influences many aspects of marriage, from ceremonies and family roles to gender dynamics and communication styles. While these practices add richness and variety, they can also present challenges when they diverge from God’s design.
1. Positive Cultural Influences
- Community Support: Many cultures emphasise the role of the extended family and community in supporting marriage.
- Example: In African and Asian cultures, family involvement in marriage fosters unity and shared responsibility.
- Rituals That Celebrate Commitment: Wedding ceremonies and traditions, when aligned with Biblical values, highlight the sanctity of marriage.
- Ecclesiastes 4:12: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
2. Harmful Cultural Practices
- Some cultural practices may conflict with God’s principles, such as:
- Gender Imbalance: Practices that elevate one gender over the other rather than promoting mutual respect and equality.
- Genesis 1:27: “So God created mankind in His own image; in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.”
- Materialism: traditions that prioritise wealth or status, such as exorbitant dowries or extravagant weddings.
- Luke 12:15: “Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions.”
- Gender Imbalance: Practices that elevate one gender over the other rather than promoting mutual respect and equality.
Balancing God and Culture in Marriage
To navigate the intersection of God and culture, couples must discern how to honour their heritage without compromising their faith.
1. Evaluate Cultural Practices
- Use Scripture as the ultimate guide to determine which cultural practices align with God’s design.
- 2 Timothy 3:16-17: “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”
2. Seek Unity in Diversity
- If spouses come from different cultural backgrounds, embrace the diversity as a reflection of God’s creativity while finding common ground in faith.
- Ephesians 4:3: “Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”
3. Prioritize God’s Kingdom
- When cultural expectations conflict with Biblical principles, choose to honour God above all else.
- Acts 5:29: “We must obey God rather than human beings!”
4. Incorporate Faith into Culture
- Adapt cultural practices to reflect God’s glory. For example:
- Replace superstitions with prayers during wedding ceremonies.
- Infuse family gatherings with Scripture readings or worship.
5. Foster Open Communication
- Discuss cultural influences openly as a couple, agreeing on how to navigate potential conflicts.
- Amos 3:3: “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?”
Practical Examples of Navigating God and Culture
1. Wedding Ceremonies
- Cultural Influence: Traditional attire, music, and rituals.
- Faith Integration: Include a pastor’s blessing, Bible readings, or prayers.
2. Family Expectations
- Cultural Influence: emphasis on parental approval or involvement.
- Faith Integration: Honour parents while maintaining autonomy as a couple.
- Ephesians 6:2-3: “Honour your father and mother”… so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
3. Financial Practices
- Cultural Influence: Pressure to meet societal standards of wealth or status.
- Faith Integration: Practice stewardship and contentment.
- 1 Timothy 6:6: “But godliness with contentment is great gain.”
God as the Foundation of Marriage
At the intersection of God and culture, it is God’s design that provides the ultimate foundation for marriage. While culture enriches, it must never overshadow the divine principles that sustain a strong marital relationship.
Key Biblical Principles for Marriage
- Love and Sacrifice: Reflecting Christ’s love for the church.
- Ephesians 5:25: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”
- Mutual Respect and Submission: Supporting and honouring one another.
- Ephesians 5:21: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
- God-Centred Living: Keeping God at the centre of every decision and practice.
- Matthew 22:37-39: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbour as yourself.”
Conclusion: Honoring God in a Cultural Context
Marriage is a sacred covenant, one that is enriched by cultural diversity but grounded in God’s eternal truth. By evaluating cultural practices through the lens of Scripture, couples can honour their heritage while building a relationship that glorifies God.
Key Verse:
“Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labour in vain.” Psalm 127:1
In Part Five, we’ll conclude this series by exploring “How to Build a God-Centred Marriage in a World of Cultural and Traditional Complexity.” Stay tuned for practical strategies and Biblical insights to navigate the complexities of modern marriage with faith and grace.